In the business world we are used to setting objectives and focusing on delivering targets. For some of us nothing else matters because it will bring success through that bonus, pay increase or a new promotion. We strive to achieve these material things, but does it really lead to personal fulfillment; personal success?
This question inspired me to think about what success means to me. For years it had always been connected with the material; having a house that I own, a nice car to drive around in, working for an organization I could feel proud of with a famous brand, and having enough money put away for a rainy day. I wanted others to see me as successful; but was I living up to my definition success?
I’d inherited beliefs about success that I adopted as my own. Over time I became more and more unfulfilled, even though I was absolutely ticking the boxes of my original definition of success. I was achieving, but I didn’t feel successful.
As a result I started to challenge my view of success and my inbuilt beliefs associated to it.
I began by trying to understand my values and asking myself some key questions:
- What do I value most about my work?
- What do I value most about my personal life?
- What do I value most about the people in my life?
- What do I want people to be saying about the person I am?
- Am I that person today?
In answering these questions I understood what is really important to me, and from that came the key motivations for feeling success at work.
Suddenly my values had become my motivators.
As long as what I was doing in any area of my life ticked my values boxes, I was striving towards success and this change of mind-set felt good. I’d changed my beliefs about what success looked like.
Through this process, I came to realise that success for me is being true to myself and my values, living authentically and keeping my purpose focal to everything that I do. This makes me feel fulfilled, it makes me feel happy, and I believe that I’m successful. Success is sustainable happiness through living my values.
When you live by someone else’s definition of success you give yourself challenges you perhaps don’t actually want, that don’t represent your values.
When you set personal goals based on these, you will never achieve wholeheartedly, because you aren’t inwardly passionate about achieving it. On the other hand, you might actually achieve a goal but you won’t feel a sustained sense of fulfillment. The process will actually de-motivate you and make you feel zapped of energy as you struggle along the journey to achieve the milestones.
The WANT has to be there because you’ll be investing time and energy. Without passion, you won’t perform to the best of your ability. Passion comes from your VALUES.
It’s so important to take time to get clarity around who you are and what your values are. Only then can you define what success looks like, and only then can you confidently go about setting life and work goals and really achieve success!
If this resonates with you, you might like to see my video on the importance of values and setting goals.
Also feel free contact me for a complimentary 30-minute clarity call, where we can talk about your particular situation and see how I could help you.
Here’s the link to my Dear Danielle Facebook Page
Believe you can!